Nobody wants or likes change except the person who thought of it! Think about it for a moment. Leaders say they like change but they only like change when it’s his or her own idea! The only thing that never changes, is CHANGE!
I’ve been guilty of saying I like change, that I embrace change, but I’m like everyone else, I only change when the fear of pain or discomfort outweighs my fear of change. To be a change agent means to be intentional and disciplined about looking for things to change in a positive way to improve our desired results.
Let’s face it. We have a lot of reasons that change is hard. We have things that work against us from the time we are conceived, right. Those things we can call the FIVE C’s, four of which are out of our control and the fifth, what I call the Wildcard.
Let’s deal out our hands and see what we can do to play them in a way that brings positive change to our personal lives as well as our teams and organizations.
The first card we are dealt deals with our DNA. We call this one our Chemistry Card. All of us inherit certain characteristics and traits from our parents and ancestors. We get our looks as well as our temperaments from our mom and dad, sometimes in a profound way, sometimes in subtle hints. We can’t do anything about this C, it is dealt to us all. Sometimes it is a good card, sometimes it’s not.
The second card we are dealt is the Circumstance Card. One person is born in a prosperous country, another in a third world country stricken with many misfortunes. We don’t get to pick it before we get here, it’s a card that is dealt from the deck of different circumstances and situations. Many people plan their families, the number of children, when and where they will be born, and with today’s technology, sometimes even the sex of the child. But, we had no choice in the matter, good circumstances or bad, we get what we were dealt.
The third C card is the Connection Card. When we were born, we lived among a certain group of people. I was born in rural West Virginia, then as a small child, moved to Chicago Illinois, where I attended grade school. Then, during my middle school and high school years, I lived back in West Virginia. I had no choice in who would be my teachers, my classmates, church family, etc. My connections were determined by my parents. I had some control over who would be my closes